When listening is your calling

“My first career was in computers, then 15 years as a paramedic. Yet I felt a growing need for a profession that enabled expression of spirituality.”

John Prince is one of VMCH’s newest Pastoral Carer Practitioners, but he has always had a passion and a need to help others. He says it wasn’t a quick process, instead he had to discern where God wanted him to go, and then find out how he was going to get there.

“I enrolled in a Graduate Diploma in Theology, with units in Pastoral Care which I loved. I then started working in Pastoral Care in the hospital sector – Epworth Eastern, St Vincent’s Hospital Melbourne, and then Peter MacCallum Cancer Hospital.”

Now, John works with us at VMCH Wantirna Aged Care Residence, providing valuable support for 96 residents

“I really love the core aspects of my role. To sit with someone, ask them how they are, and respond in a way that invites further exploration. You never know where that might go.

I love the beautiful residents knowing they are heard - that their thoughts, opinions, and very life all matter. It is gratifying to see a person relax and share deeply. It is a privilege to be trusted. Many show gratitude in different ways. Some simply accept my presence, others thank with heartfelt emotions. I am the one that is thankful.”

John says he often doesn’t plan for the day ahead, as it always changes based on the need of the residents, and ensures he is available to actively listen and respond to any needs that may be expressed.

“I meet regularly with residents, families, and even our staff. It involves giving time and a safe space to fully express, with no judgement. Creating this space takes effort, but is so worth it. Yet my role can vary greatly depending on the needs and interests of the person, which may or may not be religious or spiritual. For some it involves simple companionship and someone to talk to. Some need referral to another professional, prayer, assistance with rituals, access to services in the Chapel, or Communion. Others may benefit from activities or discussion groups. Many benefit from expression of their feelings. Then there is the extra time which is dedicated to those feeling isolated, in crisis or at end of life.”

During time this time of COVID-19 and visitor restrictions. John says there is a real need for residents to have someone to talk to.

“I believe that we each have a need to be heard and valued as unique human beings. Pastoral/ Spiritual Care has a unique way of doing this. It enables the other to express, promoting reflection and healing. This is so important to all, and only more so for the aged or ill. Listening to them, honouring their stories, views, achievements and dreams, helps them to know that they do indeed matter. This works in a complementary way with the other professions, and is only more important in times of social isolation with COVID-19.

He also has some advice for those who are feeling uncertain or scared at this time.

“Talk about it.

“It is wonderful how much better one can feel sharing a problem. The worst thing one can do is bottle it up, as things can work away inside you. We are built in that similar way. Talk to a friend, partner, someone you trust. Pray to God if you have faith. But choose those that are supportive. Don’t forget the help that pastoral/spiritual carers, counsellors, psychologists and other professionals can give. You are not alone. Finally, remember to enjoy the good things in life, look after yourself physically and try not to let yourself be overexposed to the negatives.”Are you a caring and mature person looking to make a difference to the lives of others? Are people drawn to you for comfort and support?

Maybe a career as a Pastoral Care Practitioner is the next step for you!

Our Pastoral Care Practitioners oversee and coordinate the sacramental and spiritual life of VMCH aged care residents with significant responsibility in the provision of face-to-face pastoral care for those who are at their most vulnerable.

If you have a significant understanding of Catholicism and think you would be a good fit within our team, please visit our website for available positions.